Monday, October 13, 2014

Happy Blogaversary! 5 Years!

Play Dirty Adventure - Sept 2014
Well it's October 13th and that means it's my blogaversary (yesterday). Or 5 years from the date that I started my health and fitness journey.  It's been a long and winding road, filled with ups and downs, lots of diets, races, and friends.

In honor of this wonderful milestone here are top 5 blog posts from the past, one for each year of Day One, DubyaWife, and/or Live your Goal.

Enjoy!

Day One - October 12, 2009:
The post that started it all. While this has the most hits because I link it all the time as my starting point. I think it's poignant. It reminds me that one day I started and have grown so much in five years.  I'll never  forget where I came from and how it all began.

SUCCESS! - August 27, 2010:
A pivotal moment in my weight loss, when I reached sub-200 lbs.  Since then I've lost more but of course fluctuated.  This number has been my "get your shit together" number. As I reflect on it I realize that my words still hold true today, I've become a healthier, fitter person.

What I Learned from Harry Potter - July 29, 2011:
So with over 69K hits this post went viral for some reason. And maintains it's status as the top post on my blog. But I have some great content, quotes, and motivation words in there, so, yay for Harry Potter!

Birthday Post - February 9, 2012:
A fun little gif that I created the night before my birthday. Something that I enjoyed making and something that I must remember - life is a celebration!

My Whole 30 Experience - September 3, 2013:
A huge undertaking this experience revealed some bad habits as well as helped me become more body-aware. I've maintained a paleo, NSNG, lifestyle since then and feel great!

Quit Confusing My Weight Loss with Self-Hate - March 28, 2014:
This is one of my favorite posts I've done recently because it was filled with emotions, raw, and the truth. My journey isn't one of guilt, shame, and punishment - but instead love, courage, and determination. For the past 5 years I've transformed physically but the internal change is really where it's at. I'm harder, better, faster, stronger.

To many more years of DubyaWife!
Pic from the Warrior Dash this past Saturday!

Monday, August 11, 2014

Weight Loss Is Easy.

Bull shit.

Stop kidding yourself.

Weight loss is not cute. 

Weight loss is not fun.

There's no diet that "let's you eat whatever you want"

Or a shake that "tastes like heaven itself!"

No one revels in the idea of getting up at 5am to go to the gym... or late night runs around the neighborhood despite having a million things to get done.

Here's your tough love moment...




It takes hard work.

It takes dedication.

It takes perseverance.

It takes consistency.

You have to be a bad ass.  You have to suck it up, buttercup.

You have to dig deep and know that despite the time suck, despite the missed opportunities for chocolate cake, despite the social events, despite the pain and effort - it's worth it. 

Ask yourself, are you really up for that challenge?

Will you really dedicate yourself?

Can you really commit to the journey for the long haul?

If there's doubt - remove it.

You either go hardcore or you don't at all.  

Quit kidding yourself into thinking this is fun and enjoyable.

Train hard.

Make sacrifices.

Push yourself to your limits.

Embrace the suck. 

Be bad ass anyway.

Wednesday, August 6, 2014

15 Things I Learned from Taking a Social Media Hiatus

I’m a big extrovert. I probably post on Facebook at least once a day. The average is about ten I think. As a blogger and social media freak when I told my friends I was taking a one month break I got deer-in-the-headlight looks. For some reason, I felt it was time to take a break and see what I could learn.


From July 1st through July 31st, I removed all social media in my life. G+ (including hangouts), Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Foursquare, and even my own blogs.  I setup a plug-in on my work and home laptop banning these sites and removed the apps from my phone. I still checked the news, used email, and the internet.

Here’s what I learned:


  1. I need to put away the phone before I go to bed. Besides the afternoon sleepies around 2-3pm (which are usually filled with scrolling through tumblr or taking buzzfeed quizzes) at night I found that without the stimulation of social media and I went to bed way early for the night and fell asleep quicker than normal.
  2. I don’t need to take my phone into the bathroom. Admit it. We all bring our phone into the bathroom and whip it out while on the pot. I’m sure this makes for disgusting black light pics of “what’s on your phone” but since I had no need to look at anything, I did my business and got the hell outta there.
  3. Social media apps take up a shit-ton of space. I removed all the apps on my phone which created a huge amount of space and the battery ran the whole day with no charging.  So there’s that.
  4. I need distractions. Not having the distractions is… distracting. I’m usually a productive in the morning kinda person but mind starts to wander around 1/2pm and I didn’t have anything to distract me. For the first few days it was tough to get used to.
  5. I need to see peoples faces.  The beauty of social media is being able to see pictures of friends, family, etc. Pictures of people is comforting. I saved pics of my FitBloggin friends in my phone and would periodically look at them just to see smiling faces.
  6. I am a collaborator. Sometimes social media can be like an informal poll among friends. “What should I wear tonight?” “How does everyone feel about the recent law change?” etc. I couldn’t know others opinion, or what the general consensus was. Kind of annoying.
  7. It makes social life easier. It sucked trying to have get-to-gethers or plans with friends without being able to mass invite/group invite people to an event. I couldn’t broadcast or promote something that I was attending. At one point I had to use archaic e-mail to coordinate things. Ugh.
  8. People suck at relaying information. Social media does make communication easier. I had to rely on others to keep me updated on birthdays, events, what was going on in the (pop culture) news. It takes away the blame of “No one ever told me!” and I really hate relying on others to deliver information.
  9. I can be a better listener. I hate this one because it’s so typical in these types of lists, but I couldn't deny how it felt. People really don’t realize how little they look at another person and how little they listen while they have phone-face.  Maybe we’re a world of multi-taskers, but people pull out their phones and end up focusing on something else (and even sometimes interrupting the conversation completely). Sometimes I did notice that everyone looks at their phone while conversing. I would ask myself “Is it rude?”...”Am I offended?” Or just the new norm? I realized that the phone can be a distraction from listening fully. I found those who had phone-face didn’t hear what I just said, and I would have to repeat it. I think I’ve done that many times to others, and that needs to stop.
  10. There’s never enough time in the day.  You would think I had more time… but you’d be wrong. Somehow my day was still filled with work, activities, social stuff, etc. I never had extra time. It makes me wonder how I do fit social media time into my day.
  11. I need a place to vent. During the break there was no outlet when I was upset. Many times my frustration didn’t warrant sending out a group text or group email, which meant that I internalized it and didn’t have a method to share my anger.
  12. People missed me. I got plenty of texts, emails, etc. from friends and family who would “check in on me.” People don’t forget about you. And those that really want to see/talk to you, do. I’m very grateful to those who reached out to “check in” on me. You know who you are.
  13. I need to take more pictures.  On facebook, twitter, instragram, etc. I’m a selfie, picture-taking queen… but when I took my hiatus I barely used my camera. Was it because I couldn’t share it with others? Did I have less meaningful experiences?  Or do I only take pictures so that I can post them?  Regardless, it’s made me realize that I need to take more pictures to capture the moment.
  14. I have issues dealing with loneliness. Maybe it’s selfish… or maybe, being self-aware. But most of the time I want to be around other people and I hate being alone. I get lonely very often. Without social media that feeling happened frequently.
  15. I need social media, but I don’t need social media. In many of my texts/emails from friends everyone kept asking me if I’m having withdrawals. The whole experience wasn’t this eye-opening, jaw-dropping, life-changing event.  I’m totally “meh” about it. It was interesting to learn some things, but it wasn’t monumental. In fact I completely forgot when it was over ...until later that morning.


Life will go on. It only took me an hour to get caught up with my messages, tweets, etc. So there wasn’t much that I missed. Every once and a while I’ll catch a post in my feed and find out that friend is pregnant or missed a birthday. In all, not much was missed.

Maybe you were hoping for this huge realization and a post stating how evil social media is and how addicted we are.  How cliche. And maybe the last part is true.  But, social media makes things easier. Weighing the pros and cons of it, I’m a fan. Social media’s part of our culture, America. I feel like it’s a great way to connect, communicate, and interact. Are there some things that could be better?  Sure, and I’ll work on those… just as soon as I’m done posting this hilarious gif of a cat riding a roomba while wearing a shark costume...