Wednesday, December 26, 2012

"Fat People Don't Care" - A 2013 Goal

It's often implied (if not said) that when someone sees another person of the "larger" variety... we look at them and we think they don't care about themselves... that they don't care about their weight...

... that they don't care.

And having suffered for many years with overeating and depression, I can tell you that the problem with "fat people" is that we do care.

We care a lot.

We care so much that we focus on it and pine and gripe about it that it leads us down that depression road of guilt and shame.  So then we eat...

This past year I've been victim to this.  I care. I care how I look. I care what others think of me. I care about my job. My family.  My weight.

And it all. piles. up.  It becomes this huge heap of guilt, shame, obligation, stress... that I end up eating or "zoning out" (TV, movies) to rid myself of it.

As I look back on this year I realize that many bad things happened, many tough challenges. And while it's easy to want to label those things as "bad" instead I think I'd like to label them as "learning lessons."

Cause I care. I care about the quality of my life. I care about my health. I care about my success as a business woman. I care so much. And in caring too much, we get overwhelmed.

As I go into 2013, I'm not going to try to control any of these things, nor will I be apathetic towards them. But be wary of the delicate balance.

Not focusing on the mistakes of past, nor on the goals of the future. But being present. Caring in the present.
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  1. Oh yeah! Excellent post. It is such a tricky balance. Good for you for finding a way to make it work.

  2. This is an amazing post!! So true. Thank you for sharing this, as I think about this very fact a lot!

  3. I just want to give you a big ol' hug after reading this! I hope 2013 is megatons better than 2012 was to you

  4. Awesome post!! I can totally relate to that whole cycle.

  5. Oh yes... like you, I care. I care A LOT. In fact sometimes I care so much that it overwhelms me and perpetuates the whole cycle that has me overweight in the first place!

    Great post!


  6. LOVE YOU TO PIECES! Of course you care, you are a caring person. I wish you the best in 2013 with the self-care and forgiveness part so you can walk your worth 24/7. I think you are amazing.

  7. We do care, and it sometimes controls our lives. It's a life change one that doesn't happen overnight. It's months and months or years of fighting.


    1. Everyday is Day One. What can I do today to be healthy?

      Thanks, JMM. :)