Tuesday, January 22, 2013

It's Not Me, It's Them.

I'm egocentric.  That's just the truth.

The problem with that is when something goes wrong I don't blame others, I blame myself.  Or I think that there's something I'm doing wrong.  Or I focus on what I can do to fix the problem.  It's actually a very selfish thought process. 

What's funny about this thinking is that it's completely converse to my philosophies on internal growth... what I teach my daughter or advise my loved ones.  Practice what you preach, right?

I've come to realize from a culmination of events - It's not about me, it's about them.  And this philosophy is something I'm slowly starting to realize has been lacking in my life.

For whatever reason I struggle with self-restraint... I guess it is my learning lesson in life.  Problem with this is it gets in the way of my priorities, my emotions, and ultimately my self-esteem.

However when I find the rare occasion where I have clarity of mind to realize that the world doesn't revolve around me...  That I am not my problem...  I feel peaceful and right with the world.

It's difficult to be mindful.  To take our errors, our missteps and realize that "Hey, that doesn't define me."  To look past the mistake and realize it's a learning lesson.

Being present is difficult.


  1. I love this post. So much there.

    I worry about being egocentric and thinking everything's about me - which is a bad thing for me on a couple of levels. On one hand I see it as being self-absorbed and not caring about anyone else... on the other when someone's a bit quiet or preoccupied I assume it's something to do with me and my fault! (It's all about me, me, me, me!)

    Being present and mindful is seriously hard.


    1. Thanks, Deb. Step by step. Day by Day.