Over two years ago I wrote a post called "Don't be an elitist." At the time I wrote it I was just starting out in a new gym with a new gym class and tried to "socialize" to get to know people.
A few of them were friendly.
A few weren't.
Regardless, a person in my class read the post... and immediately knew.
It was about her.
I feel such shame for just this alone. But it gets worse.
I am honored enough that she took the time to send me a message about the post and profusely apologize as well as to indicate that she was totally supportive of me and my journey. This message was lost in the "internet web-space of doom" and I didn't read it until a few months ago. Imagine this, as I went to class with her almost every week and she thought I was mad or angry or hated her. Whilst I misunderstood her reaction and presumed she thought less of me... simply because of my weight. What silly assumptions.
My perception and the reality were off. WAY off.
After I found this message I apologized, and every time I've been to class since with her I think about this weird occurrence How completely ironic it is that I wrote about being elitist... and there I was, doing exactly that. I'm in the wrong. This person has a job. A family. Goals. Feelings. And I had pigeon-holed her as some snob. And it couldn't be further from the truth.
While this post is my way of apologizing, it's also to say - don't be elitist. As bloggers we get caught up in our emotions, trends, or just plain writing to "get views." And while everyone's entitled to their opinions, make sure you're not hurting others.
Some people have been losing weight for years.
Some people have been losing weight for days.
Some people like to weigh in everyday.
Some people like to "diet."
Some people like Weight Watchers.
Some people like to calorie count.
Some people like to eat low-fat.
Some people like to eat paleo.
No one's right and no one's wrong.
It's your own personal weight loss journey... tell YOUR story, but take heed - others are on theirs and they need love and support too.
I write this today because yesterday I had the wonderful opportunity to workout with her as a pair in our class. She's bright, cheerful, supportive, and completely down to earth person - not at all what I had made her out to be. I'm wise enough to know that I make mistakes, I'm humble enough to admit them, and I hope I'm smart enough to know... don't mess with someone who can out lift me ten times over. ;-)
I'm sorry, Bre. Thank you for being the "bigger" person - you rock.